I believe that those of us that live in faith and trust fully in the Lord will when the time is right be led to a partner that is chosen for us by God. However, we don’t always follow the path that God wants for us or trust enough in the Lord and his timing. In the eyes of God we are all his children. “I will be a father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty” (2 Corinthians 6:18).
Every parent knows that children make a lot of bad decisions because they want it when they want it and they sometimes have to suffer the negative consequences of their actions. Bad decisions are not reserved only for children. In a moment of weakness, rebellion or bad judgment we can all engage in all manner of sinful, bad and unhealthy deeds, and that includes relationships. Negative consequences are also not reserved just for children. “But anyone who needs wisdom should ask God, whose very nature is to give to everyone without a second thought, without keeping score. Wisdom will certainly be given to those who ask” (James 1:5)
Most members of Faithmunity.com using our Free Christian Dating Service for Christian Singles, have already decided that for them a relationship with a non-Christian or unbeliever is not desirable or wise. However, for many Christians it’s a very serious dilemma, especially if they are already in a relationship with an unbeliever. We live in a world where God has given us the choice and to follow Christ or not. The decision to accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior and to be saved or not is ours “Look! I have been standing at the door, and I am constantly knocking. If anyone hears me calling him and opens the door, I will come in and fellowship with him and he with me” (Revelation 3:20)
Christian singles can and do become influenced and attracted to people that are unbelievers. This very dilemma can test the faith of many Christians singles and the values they choose to live by. Christians singles pursuing relationships with non-Christians or unbelievers risk an uncongenial relationship. Such relationships will continually test your faith and values. Wisdom tells us that most Christians singles entering into such relations will eventually come to a point where they must choose one or the other. Relationships with no common purpose are often doomed to fail. Not all love or desire is good or from God “because you have faith and a good conscience. Some people have ruined their faith because they refused to listen to their conscience” (1 Timothy 1:19)
Having said the above, people get saved at a point in time. The bible tells us that God gives us time to find and accept him “The Lord is not slow in doing what he promised – the way some people understand slowness. But God is being patient with you. He does not want anyone to be lost. He wants everyone to change his heart and life’ (2 Peter 3:9). However, it is one thing to spread the gospel to try and bring people to the Lord and another to risk you own salvation. For many Christians singles the decision to embark on, or continue on with a relationship with an unbeliever can cause much heartache and emotional unrest.
Emotional turmoil can rob us of logical reasoning and test our faith the most. But, while our hearts and desires can deceive us, God does not. God promises to give wisdom to all that ask (James 1:5). Through our work at Faithmunity.com and our many interactions with members of our Free Christian Dating Service for Christian Singles, it’s clear that the happier and less rocky road is to date Christian Singles and pursue relationships with persons of the same faith. I personally could not imagine not being able to share my faith with my spouse. Our faith unites us, empowers us and gives us a common purpose and values. For Christian couples it’s the very foundation they build their relationship on.
“Do not let anyone fool you. Bad people can make those who want to live good become bad” (1 Corinthians 15:33)
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